As I get older, I've found myself more and more passionate about femininity. Our world is pretty obsessed with finding true happiness, and for me, few things bring joy like living out my God-given femininity as a women. Sadly, I've noticed a trend of distaste towards femininity and want to know- why? Why are we so afraid of being feminine women?
What is it with women of today being so envious of men? Why do we think, “if only I could be more like a man I could be successful, liked, and privileged”? Why do we strive so hard to be like men that we lose our identities as women?
"We should stop trying to compare ourselves to men, and start working on being the feminine women we were created to be. We can try as hard as we want to be the same as men, but we will never be content trying to find our identity in being like a man."
If we took an honest look, we would see that we tear down and devalue ourselves when we compare ourselves to men, saying that they have the upper hand and their lives are bliss because they can, supposedly, do whatever they want, go wherever they want, and get away with anything they want, and we can’t. This mindset leads us to devalue and tear down men because it almost always comes from a place of pride, hate, and arrogance. Simultaneously, us women try to change men to be more like us saying “You should wear your emotions on your sleeves, you don’t have to be strong,” and the like. AND we think that if we were men we would do a better job at it!
“You become that which you hate.” I don’t know if women realize how masculine they have become in their pursuits to tear down and bust through “toxic” masculinity. And the sad truth is, we demonize femininity just as much as we demonize masculinity in our culture.
Maybe it’s a good thing for a woman to want a husband, to want to be a mother, to want to wear modest clothes that make her look beautiful. Maybe cleaning your house and serving others is a good thing. Maybe gentleness and meekness is a thing to be embraced by us women. Maybe it’s not the end of the world that women are, in fact, weaker than men. (See 1 Peter 3:7) Maybe every woman who allows a man to lead her whether it be her father, husband, leaders in the church, etc is not a doormat, unable to think for herself and without opinions. And none of these things make us inferior to men in value or worth!
We should stop trying to compare ourselves to men, and start working on being the feminine women we were created to be! We can can try as hard as we want to be the same as men, but we will never be content trying to find our identity in being like a man. We will always find excuses to be angry and to hate and look down upon men. We can be graceful, beautiful, resilient, kind, feminine. Femininity is a beautiful thing to be cherished, and valued. Let’s start being who God created us to be! 💕
With love,
Solie Osorio
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